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The baby is the candy, the mom is the wrapper.

“The baby is the candy, the mom is the wrapper. And once the candy is out of the wrapper, the wrapper is cast aside.” A quote from Alison Stuebe, in Redesigning Maternal Care on NPR. 

The days and weeks after childbirth can be a time of particular vulnerability for new mothers, yet for many women in the U.S., the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologist ACOG committee opinion notes, the postpartum period is “devoid of formal or informal maternal support”. 

Just as we approach Mothers Day the attention to new mom care right after delivery is needed more than ever. We should treat new mothers as top athletes. After all they did deliver (literary) an Olympic achievement if not undergone a serious operation in case of a C-section. Yet “as soon as the baby comes out, the mom is kind of an afterthought.” Tamika Auguste. 

Top athletes receive a plethora of services to recover in the best possible way. Special diet, regular doctor check ups with blood analysis, physical therapy, psychological support, massages you name it. A new mom according to the ACOG in their “committee opinion” on “Optimizing Postpartum Care” may not have a follow up appointment with her own doctor until four to six weeks after delivery!

There is not one single solution to better postpartum care, every one surrounding the new mother can and should play their part. 

The “The first 8 Days of being a Mom” manual can help inform the new mom, new dad and other family members how to do that. 

Let’s take care of our moms not only on Mothers Day.  

Happy Mothers Day


20x what no one tells you about entering into motherhood (really!)

The first days after delivery: a pink cloud, if you have to believe the stories of others. Nothing is closer to the truth. 

Those first days and weeks are just full of merciless suffering.

No one is telling you that:

1. Sleep deprivation

… you manage to build an enormous lack of sleep in those first days, which you won’t be able to recuperate from for the first three years. Are you still alive?

2. HUH?

... a few times a day your are thinking: Good grief, what are you doing here?

3. Nil concentration capabilities

… you are so tired that you have to read the same sentence five times before you have the slightest idea what it’s about.

4. Hunger

… a newborn baby wakes up every 2 and a half hours every night in the first few weeks, because: hunger! Yep, and then you’re in view.

5. Sitting is impossible

… you, in case of sutures, won’t be able to sit normally. Great starting point to breastfeed relaxed.

6. Boo hoo, I can’t stop crying

… you, on the third day, al of a sudden are overtaken by an enormous  wave of crying and you don’t understand why. Get acquainted with the ‘baby blues’.

7. Powder room visits

… the first few days of visiting the powder room feels like a one way ticket to hell. Tip: eat lots and lots of fibers and flush with luke warm water.

 8. Are you alive?

 ... you’re not getting any sleep at all, because all of a sudden there is a bubbly baby bedside and you are checking babies breath every fife minutes. Hello baby, are you still alive?

9. Painful breasts

… your breast are transforming into two painful, swollen balloons. Thrust they call it. The milk factory kicks into gear. Tip: wear a tight bra.

10. Adrenaline

     … you are tight like a stick because of the high levels   adrenaline. Give thanks to all the hormones and emotions running through your veins. And you won’t get a proper eye shut.

11. Milk

… while under the hot shower suddenly your breasts start spraying milk.

12. Pushing and pulling

… getting your baby in the right position to breastfeed is almost like a lesson in advanced mathematics. The lactation specialist:  a little bit to the right, a tiny bit to the left,  yes, now your baby is at the right angle. And latch, auch!

13. Lots of perspiring, lots of it

… you wake up in the middle of the night swimming in your nightgown, hormones are screwing you up. Did you finally manage to fall asleep, now this.

14. and more perspiring

… your hormones do the same trick during the day which means more hot flashes.

15. Eye bags

… your eye bags, the last weeks before delivery they were already building up quite considerably, but now they are deeper, darker and thicker. And:

16. Tip: Eye crème

.. you better get yourself acquainted before you pop with a darn good eye crème and concealer.

17. Visitors

… there are visitors that, although you have just delivered an epic achievement , expect you’re entertaining with food and beverages.

18. Take too long

… those same visitors stay with ease for two hours all the while you’re falling over from exhaustion, your breasts are leaking and all you are trying is to change positions because of those darn sutures down below.

19. Going outside

… the first trip outside of your house with the baby feels like an  Olympic achievement. You are hardly out the door when you start sweating. Those colors, those sounds – everything hits you like a hammer.

20. Avoid large crowds

… for the same reason as above, don’t think you will like a Target on a Saturday afternoon as your first out of the house endeavor. Even though you were convinced you needed another pack of hydrophilic diapers. 


It’s a phase

Are you in your last term and thinking: what on earth did I sign up for? Don’t worry, it’s a phase.  And who knows you are the exception to the rule and you: don’t feel those physical inconveniences, have a baby that sleeps through the night on day two, and are in the lucky possession of Zen hormones.

Moreover: there are at least as many reasons to believe why the first weeks after delivery are wonderful and pretty special. 


You need help; the newborn and new mom manual is here for you.

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Pink cloud or black box? Postpartum Confessions

Danielle’s raw postpartum Facebook post prompts others to share their experiences. 

The days immediately following the birth of a new baby are magical and sweet, but if we’re honest, they’re also really damn difficult. That’s why it’s so inspiring to see one Arizona mom putting it all out there about those first few days postpartum and how challenging they really are.

On Sept. 12, Haines posted a photo of herself, taken three days after she gave birth to her son Ocean in November 2014. In the photo, she's on the verge of tears, shirtless and cradling her baby against her chest. 

Danielle 3 days after delivery

In the caption for the emotional photo, Haines writes, "I was so raw and so open, I was a fucking mess. I loved my baby, I missed his daddy (he went back to work that day), I was mad at my mom, my heart hurt for my brother because my mom left us and now I had a little boy that looked like him, my nipples were cracked and bleeding, my milk was almost in, my baby was getting really hungry, I was feeling sad that people kill babies, like on purpose, I had not slept since I went into labor, I didn't know how to put my boobs away, my vagina was sore from sitting on it while nursing constantly, I was kinda loosing my mind." 

Haines goes on to recognize, in the Facebook post, the wonderful support she received from female friends and relatives in those early days.

She also invites other moms to share their immediate postpartum experiences.

Postpartum Confessions



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